April 5, 2010
Distance Makes the Heart Grow Fonder…Or Not?
Does this old saying still hold true for our current generation? Yes, some time apart will make you miss your significant other that much more. But will that feeling fade as a life without your SO by your side begins to seem habitual? Will you start to forget? Adaptation is our secret weapon, but perhaps it could also destroy relationships.
Today, we have the internet where we could keep in touch with friends from all over the world through video calls, msn chats etc. We also have long distance calling on our mobile cell phones so we can keep in touch even on the go. Do these technological advances help or hinder our relationships with our peers or, in this case, our SOs?
I have, throughout the whole of middle and high school, been thoroughly hooked onto MSN. However, now that I think back to my experiences with MSN, I realize that I always said things that I would not have said in person, or used tones that I would have normally been hesitant to use. I was not myself.
Wouldn’t this be dangerous to the survival of a long-distance relationship?
Also, how can two people communicate their emotions effectively through text? Especially with the use of chatspeak?A: i luv u hun B: aw i luv u too babe miss u lk crazy A: wish i cud b wit u rite nw
Firstly, cheezy much? Secondly, is it just me or has all the emotion been sucked out of words that could have been filled with romantic potential? (Okay, maybe I deliberately chose the cheesiest things to say to your SO, but..you get my point. :))
As Mary from the chick flick He’s Just Not That Into You says, “I’m not charming via text!”
What about video calling then? Surely, the next best alternative to face to face contact should be better than reading lines of text. Well, as many Skype users may tell you, the occasional freezes of the video and the audio can be very effective at destroying a heart to heart talk between you and your SO. Imagine trying to tell your SO about your amazing day and suddenly the camera freezes your face in the middle of the transition between normal and excited. Even if both of your try to ignore it, your bug-eyed face staring back at the both of you would be just the tiniest bit distracting. And imagine your audio being cut off in the middle of
an intense conversation. The time spent trying to get the audio working again would almost always end the conversation prematurely.
How are you supposed to bond like that?? How can Skype and other video calling technologies ever come close to the physical and emotional intimacy of actual face to face contact?
And long distance calls? Expensive.
Now, of course, a couple that’s dedicated to each other and are both determined to make a long distance relationship work will, under most circumstances manage to stay together. However, we cannot disregard the fact that long distance relationships will require a lot of work and dedication on both ends.
I guess we just have to stay positive. True love prevails! …Right?